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When you’re expecting a baby, it’s no secret that the journey can be filled with excitement, challenges, and a whole lot of unknowns. But for neurodivergent individuals—those who have conditions like ADHD, autism, or sensory sensitivities—pregnancy, birth, and postpartum can come with some unique experiences that often go unspoken.
As a doula, I am deeply supportive and accepting of all neurodivergent people. This topic is close to my heart because I have a neurodiverse family, and I have ADHD. I use the very tools I teach my clients to keep myself focused and productive with my own business and taking care of my family. I’m proud to say that my neurosparkly mind makes me better at my job—I care deeply, focus intently, learn faster, and have a greater sense of empathy for each of my clients.
The good news? You don’t have to navigate it alone, and with a few tailored strategies, you can make the journey as smooth and empowering as possible.
Pregnancy: Navigating the Rollercoaster with Neurodiversity
Pregnancy can be a whirlwind of emotions, physical changes, and sensory experiences. For neurodivergent parents, this can feel even more heightened. Think about it: all the smells, noises, and physical sensations that your body goes through can sometimes become overwhelming. Those heightened senses, which might already be part of your daily life, are now amplified.
Sensory Overload: Smells might be stronger, clothes might feel too tight, and noises might be too loud—pregnancy can magnify your sensory sensitivities. It’s not uncommon to feel overstimulated during routine appointments or daily activities.
Emotional Rollercoaster: Neurodivergent individuals often experience emotional regulation differently, and pregnancy’s hormone swings can sometimes make it harder to manage. That’s why building a support system that understands your needs is essential. Visual schedules, gentle reminders for appointments, and a plan for handling sensory overload can go a long way in making the experience more manageable.
Birth: Creating a Plan that Works for You
Let’s be real—birth is a big moment for everyone, but when you add neurodiversity to the mix, the intensity can feel even greater. The good news is that with the right preparation, you can create a birthing environment that respects your neurodivergent needs.
Sensory-Friendly Birth Environment: Labor and delivery can bring bright lights, noise, and constant activity—all potential triggers for sensory overload. This is where having a customized birth plan comes into play. Dimmed lighting, soft music, fewer people in the room, and clear communication with your birth team can create a calming space for you to labor.
Communication is Key: If you process information more slowly or feel overwhelmed in high-pressure situations, it’s important to have a trusted support person by your side—whether that’s a doula, partner, or close friend. Let them advocate for you and help communicate your needs to the medical team. Don’t be afraid to ask for written or visual aids during labor to help you understand your options clearly.
Postpartum: Navigating the Early Days with Neurodivergence
After your baby arrives, the postpartum period can be filled with new challenges. For neurodivergent parents, overstimulation is a common struggle, as the early days of parenting often come with unpredictable noises, crying, and constant needs.
Overstimulation: Babies are wonderful, but they are also unpredictable! Their cries and constant attention can leave you feeling overstimulated. Try creating a calm space where you can retreat to when things feel overwhelming. It might be as simple as dimming the lights, using white noise, or stepping out for a quick break.
Routine vs. Flexibility: Some neurodivergent parents thrive on routine, while others feel stifled by it. The key is finding what works best for you. If you need structure, establish a simple daily routine for feeding, sleeping, and self-care. If you prefer flexibility, give yourself permission to go with the flow, adapting as needed.
Both approaches are valid, and the most important thing is that you feel supported.
Postpartum Mental Health: It’s also worth mentioning that postpartum depression and anxiety may present differently for neurodivergent individuals. Being aware of your mental health and seeking help early is crucial. If you feel disconnected, anxious, or overwhelmed, reach out to your support system or a healthcare provider who understands your neurodivergent needs.
Finding the Right Support
One of the most empowering things you can do as a neurodivergent parent is to build a strong support team. Whether it’s a doula, therapist, or understanding healthcare provider, having someone in your corner who "gets it" can make all the difference.
Advocating for Yourself: Don’t be afraid to ask for accommodations during appointments or at the hospital. Whether it’s asking for a quieter waiting room, a more straightforward explanation of procedures, or extra time to process decisions, your needs are valid, and it’s okay to advocate for them.
Embracing Your Unique Journey
Your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experience will be uniquely yours, shaped by your neurodivergence. And that’s okay! By understanding your needs and preparing accordingly, you can approach this journey with confidence and empowerment.
If you’re navigating these experiences as a neurodivergent parent, remember:
You’re not alone, and your journey is just as valid and beautiful as anyone else’s. 💖
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